Monday, April 16, 2007

Why am I remaining anonymous?




This has been a hard decision, whether to publish my full name or remain anonymous. It seems imperative that such a blog maintain a level of integrity and honesty and safety. Anonymity seems to challenge that idea of honesty and adds a secretiveness to a place in which light should shine into all the cracks and corners. For this reason I would choose openness.

However, by profession I teach kids, kids who are ever curious and ever searching. Kids who know that Google has access to everything and everyone. Kids who in the past have typed in my name to find my school website. Kids who I care about.

Can you imagine the difficulty of explaining all this to a 12 year old? Do you know how quickly the rumor mill runs? Can you imagine having to discuss this in a principal's office with parents concerned about their child being taught by someone once abused? If you are a teacher, I am sure you can imagine it.

In the end, for now, this has been the deciding factor. I will remain anonymous. But let me reassure the reader that in this anonymity is no shame or desire to hide from truth or you. I stand fully in the light of truth and of the God of my beliefs. I remain anonymous to protect my students and myself. If you need past this anonymity, just leave me your email and I will email you. In time this may necessarily change and if God thus leads then I will trust to his protection. In the meantime.......blessings,

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

There is healing in the Truth, lovingly applied. Hugs help a lot.

TREY MORGAN said...

Welcome to the blogging world. I know you'll be a great help to many people.

Trey

Di said...

Trey, I think the greatest help I have received during my journey has been in the form of an attentive ear. Listening is a tremendously powerful elixir. Hopefully one day there will be many of us listening to the cries of the wounded sheep and with our crooks reaching to pull them off the cliff or out of the sludge.

TREY MORGAN said...

Thanks for the reminder to be a listener. I often times question my ability to counsel others and give advise, but you've reminded me that I can always listen.

Thanks

Di said...

In therapy, I was shocked to discover there was little counsel given. I was often helped to find my own answers but the key to most healing came from being listened to and subtlely reminded that it was alright to be human and to make mistakes. Listening, without judgement, and with understanding was the first key to the shame I carried. Dismantling the shame is what has brought me freedom.

Sharecropper said...

I am made aware that I am using a mask to cover myself with when I blog as Sharecropper.

As a man of faith I need to honestly deal with the deception that it involves.

One the one hand, the use of a nom-de-plume or a writer's name is not new in the literary world. It was necessary for early women writers to write using male names in order to have an readership at all.

On the other hand like going into one's prayer closet, using a nom-de-plume allows a person to speak more openly without drawing prideful attention to themselves.

As a Christian this means to me that I am ethically bound to write and behave while in this persona/medium in a manner that exalts my God and betters my fellowman -- and also seek to put the focus on my message and my God without drawing my own authentic persona into the arena, at least unnecessarily.

Other commentators may have other viewpoints on this subject. They can speak for themselves.

On the other hand I sometimes find that anoonymous critics need a word of caution to speak worlds that lift all of us to better behavior or be very gentle -- or, else, bravely speak in their own true name.